10 Reasons Why Second Marriages Work

My husband and I had been together for almost three years before we decided to get married. The year was 2006. We had both been married before, had been divorced for a while when we started dating and had young children. Our kids, three of them between the two of us, were seven, nine and…

A Sexual Dry Spell

Sometimes, my husband and I hit a sexual dry spell. Meaning that days, and occasionally, weeks go by without us having sex. It doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with our relationship. It usually just means that he’s been working late or that the kids have been around a lot or that I’m caught up…

Erotic Lit To Take On Your Summer Vacation

Here’s something else to put on your must-pack list when you’re getting ready to go on your summer vacation: erotica. And I’m not referring to the 50 Shades of Grey Trilogy. I do think E.L. James is owed a whole debt of gratitude for opening up millions of women’s eyes (and perhaps their legs) to…

Carnal Knowledge: Ballcuzi

It took me a couple of seconds to figure out the origination of the term, Ballcuzi. See if you get it when I describe how it’s done: A man places his balls into a mug or bowl of a warm liquid, say milk or water. His partner puts a straw into the liquid and starts…

Masturbation: The Name of the Game Is…

In this edition of Carnal Knowledge, MiddleSexy investigates nicknames for masturbation. Here are some of our favorites: Let your fingers do the walking A night in with the girls Climbing Mons Veneris Getting to know yourself Hitchhiking to heaven Making bubbles One-handed bridge Playing poker Doing the centipede shuffle Riding the unicycle Shucking the oyster…

Sex Quickie: Communication As Foreplay

I’ve been married long enough to know that sometimes people fall in to sex lulls. When time goes by and neither person makes the move and the next thing you know its been two weeks since you’ve been intimate. The best way to resolve this? Communicate. Say it out loud. “Wow, it’s been two weeks…

The Importance of Kissing

How often do you kiss your partner? And I don’t mean just a peck on the cheek or a brief meeting of the lips in passing. I mean a moment in time when your lips meet and for a few seconds, that’s all that you’re focused on. Taking in the closeness of your bodies. Getting…

10 Most Common Excuses Used to Avoid Sex

It’s a problem as old as the oldest civilization. We’re not in the mood to have sex but our partners are. And sure, every once in a while, we’ll buck up and take one for the team. But when we really, really don’t want to be intimate, here are the some of the excuses we’ve…

Want To Look Younger? Have More Sex!

I always knew that after I had finished up a good romp in the hay with my husband, I glowed. The increased blood flow, the exertion, the release of endorphins. But what I didn’t know was that having sex was helping me stave off the effects of aging. Research done by a British physician shows…