Saying “I Love You”

How often do you say, “I love you” to your partner? Once a day? Maybe twice a day? Or every time you speak on the phone? I fall in to the every time you speak on the phone category. That verbal expression of love is important to me. It’s right up there with other acts…

10 Reasons Why Second Marriages Work

My husband and I had been together for almost three years before we decided to get married. The year was 2006. We had both been married before, had been divorced for a while when we started dating and had young children. Our kids, three of them between the two of us, were seven, nine and…

Couch Potato Sex

Two good friends recently confided that their men love to fool around while they are watching TV. In one case, the preferred activity is a hand job. In the other, a blowjob is the desired action. For both men, the thrill seems to reference their teenage days, when they were just discovering sex. Back then,…

Crazy Is As Crazy Does

Nothing makes my husband crazier than cleaning out closets, and nothing makes me crazier than dealing with my husband when he is cleaning out closets. The event usually goes something like this: Him (from deep within a closet in an annoyed tone of voice): WHY do we have ALL of these ratty towels (or old…

Taking One For the Team

Do you sometimes take one for the team? You know, those times when you have sex with your partner when you don’t really want to? You’re tired or you just did your hair or you ate too much for dinner and feel like you’re going to burst. I do it. Because in my marriage, our…

Do Happily Married Women Have More Sex?

Research from psychotherapist M. Gary Neuman suggests that, on average, happily married women have sex 11 times per month. That’s almost three times a week. And his research says that it is all about the quantity versus the quality. I consider myself happily married but Hubs and I tend to go in spurts with our…

10 Ways To Flirt With Your Significant Other

Remember how exciting your relationship was when it was new? The flirting and the butterflies in your stomach. Recapture those thrills by updating all your old tricks, and adding a few new ones. Sext him. Tell him what a great body he has or what you want him to do to you when he gets…

The Embarrassing Thing My Husband Did

If you and I were out to dinner together, and I repeatedly kicked you under the table with my clunky hard wedges, what would you think I was doing? A. Dealing with an uncontrollable spasm in my leg. B. Dancing to the beat of the saxophone player sounding out his rendition of “Una Lunga Storia…

Regaining My Lust for Valentine’s Day

Over the last couple of years, I’ve fallen out of caring about Valentine’s Day. Maybe it’s all of the commercials for heart shaped necklace pendants or candy and flowers. Or the fact that the valentine displays come out before I get my Christmas tree down. It’s become easy to shun Valentine’s Day. To harden my…