Summer Is the Friskiest Time of the Year

“Summer lovin’ had me a blast. Summer lovin’ happened so fast.” As John Travolta and Olivia Newton John sang to us in Grease, summer is the time for getting it on. Now scientists are backing up what every teenager seems to get by osmosis: there is a seasonality to sex, with summer the hottest time…

Couch Potato Sex

Two good friends recently confided that their men love to fool around while they are watching TV. In one case, the preferred activity is a hand job. In the other, a blowjob is the desired action. For both men, the thrill seems to reference their teenage days, when they were just discovering sex. Back then,…

How To Get In The Mood

Your partner is feeling frisky but you aren’t. Or you really want to do it but you’re too tired or too stressed or too something else. Turn that downtown frown around with any of these MiddleSexy recommendations for getting yourself in the mood. 1)      Read or watch something sexy. Your favorite sex scene in print…

Have a New Lover? Use a Condom

Quick reminder for those who haven’t taken Sex Ed in a while: Pregnancy prevention is only one reason to take precautions. The rate of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) is growing rapidly among men and women 50 years old and over, thanks to a perfect storm of divorce, drugs for erectile dysfunction, and a population that…

6 Ways to Turn Your Bedroom Into a Boudoir

Are you stuck in the same old, same old routine in your bedroom? Maybe part of the problem is the bedroom itself. Here are six easy ways you can spruce up your bedroom, making it sexier and more inviting for a little intimacy. Soften your lighting: I’m not getting any younger. And sometimes I don’t…

Carnal Knowledge: Ballcuzi

It took me a couple of seconds to figure out the origination of the term, Ballcuzi. See if you get it when I describe how it’s done: A man places his balls into a mug or bowl of a warm liquid, say milk or water. His partner puts a straw into the liquid and starts…

Helping Your Partner Become A Better Lover

We’ve all been there. Sex with a mate that is boring, or even worse, plain bad. Perfunctory foreplay, a hand or tongue that never seems to find the right place or the right rhythm, the thrust that starts too soon or is over too fast. But we also know that sex can be tricky to…

The Importance of Kissing

How often do you kiss your partner? And I don’t mean just a peck on the cheek or a brief meeting of the lips in passing. I mean a moment in time when your lips meet and for a few seconds, that’s all that you’re focused on. Taking in the closeness of your bodies. Getting…

10 Most Common Excuses Used to Avoid Sex

It’s a problem as old as the oldest civilization. We’re not in the mood to have sex but our partners are. And sure, every once in a while, we’ll buck up and take one for the team. But when we really, really don’t want to be intimate, here are the some of the excuses we’ve…