10 Reasons Why Second Marriages Work

My husband and I had been together for almost three years before we decided to get married. The year was 2006. We had both been married before, had been divorced for a while when we started dating and had young children. Our kids, three of them between the two of us, were seven, nine and…

Divorce Is Final But Kids Tie You Together Forever

So here’s the thing about divorce, if you have children together: Your marriage may be over but your interactions will never end. There will be birthday parties and graduations. Weddings and grandchildren. As parents, you are bonded together. Forever and ever. So you better do your damnedest to behave like civilized people over the years…

Worrying About Sex (In Your 40’s)

Sometimes, I worry about sex. Yes, me. I know, it’s odd. Right? I mean, I’ve written about sex a lot. I review sex toys. I try to be honest about my sexuality. But here are two of my worries. One, I worry that I don’t put out enough. Sure, hubs and I go through active…

The Importance of a Good Bra

Want to know what the most important part of my wardrobe is these days? My bra. Let’s face it. At the age of 48, after birthing and breastfeeding two kids who are now teenagers, along with the effects of gravity, my boobs could use some help. When I take off my bra, my boobs do…

Gray Divorces Are Increasing

You’ve raised your kids together and now they’re out of the house. They’re off to college, starting their own lives and getting married. So it’s just the two of you. Rambling around the empty house. Which is great if you are intimate, enjoy each other’s company and want to re-discover your life together without kids.…

My First Vibrator

After I got divorced, a close friend gave me a vibrator and told me to go home and use it. I was almost 40 years old. And I had never seen one up close before. It was one of those lipstick vibes. Small but powerful. It felt odd to use it that first time. I…