When Love Hurts Break Out The Lube

A few women I know who love sex have started to dread it a little bit. With fewer hormones flowing, their vaginas feel tighter and dryer, and penetration can be uncomfortable. “I never expected that it would hurt,” says a good friend who just turned 50. While there are many remedies for vaginal dryness, the…

Taking One For the Team

Do you sometimes take one for the team? You know, those times when you have sex with your partner when you don’t really want to? You’re tired or you just did your hair or you ate too much for dinner and feel like you’re going to burst. I do it. Because in my marriage, our…

Sex Quickie: Why You Should Masturbate

In the last few years, the world has finally acknowledged that, yes, women do masturbate. (Loud cheering.) And we should. Often. There are many reasons why masturbation is beneficial to us. Here are some of my favorites: Masturbation feels good. Falls in to the use it or lose it campaign of anti-aging. Keep those vaginal…

Have a New Lover? Use a Condom

Quick reminder for those who haven’t taken Sex Ed in a while: Pregnancy prevention is only one reason to take precautions. The rate of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) is growing rapidly among men and women 50 years old and over, thanks to a perfect storm of divorce, drugs for erectile dysfunction, and a population that…

6 Ways to Turn Your Bedroom Into a Boudoir

Are you stuck in the same old, same old routine in your bedroom? Maybe part of the problem is the bedroom itself. Here are six easy ways you can spruce up your bedroom, making it sexier and more inviting for a little intimacy. Soften your lighting: I’m not getting any younger. And sometimes I don’t…

Carnal Knowledge: Ballcuzi

It took me a couple of seconds to figure out the origination of the term, Ballcuzi. See if you get it when I describe how it’s done: A man places his balls into a mug or bowl of a warm liquid, say milk or water. His partner puts a straw into the liquid and starts…

Helping Your Partner Become A Better Lover

We’ve all been there. Sex with a mate that is boring, or even worse, plain bad. Perfunctory foreplay, a hand or tongue that never seems to find the right place or the right rhythm, the thrust that starts too soon or is over too fast. But we also know that sex can be tricky to…

Food Preferences And Boudoir Behavior

We are big foodies here at MiddleSexy, so we closely follow research that links breaking bread with getting it on. Like a new study from social dating site Skout, that says that people who like grilled cheese are more likely to be doing the dirty than those who don’t like the sandwiches. Of 4,600 people…