Product Review: Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa Balls are not an easy sell. Their name sounds a little dirty and in order to use them, you have to insert the balls in to your vagina with your fingers. And not everybody is comfortable with that. But they should be. Because the outcome of wearing them is toned vaginal muscles and…

Sex In the Shower

Several of our closest friends have houses on a barrier island off the shore of Long Island, New York, where cars are banned and people walk or ride bicycles everywhere. The homes, situated close together on a narrow strip of land between the bay and the beach, rarely are locked and for our extended group…

Summer Is the Friskiest Time of the Year

“Summer lovin’ had me a blast. Summer lovin’ happened so fast.” As John Travolta and Olivia Newton John sang to us in Grease, summer is the time for getting it on. Now scientists are backing up what every teenager seems to get by osmosis: there is a seasonality to sex, with summer the hottest time…

A Sexual Dry Spell

Sometimes, my husband and I hit a sexual dry spell. Meaning that days, and occasionally, weeks go by without us having sex. It doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with our relationship. It usually just means that he’s been working late or that the kids have been around a lot or that I’m caught up…

Couch Potato Sex

Two good friends recently confided that their men love to fool around while they are watching TV. In one case, the preferred activity is a hand job. In the other, a blowjob is the desired action. For both men, the thrill seems to reference their teenage days, when they were just discovering sex. Back then,…

How to Beat Vaginal Dryness

One of my good friends talks about the symptoms of aging as if they were climate change. “Up here,” she says, pointing to her face, “it now rains all the time.”  “But down there,” she says, pointing to her vagina, “it is as dry as the desert.” Our vaginas, like the rest of our bodies,…

How To Get In The Mood

Your partner is feeling frisky but you aren’t. Or you really want to do it but you’re too tired or too stressed or too something else. Turn that downtown frown around with any of these MiddleSexy recommendations for getting yourself in the mood. 1)      Read or watch something sexy. Your favorite sex scene in print…

5 Things I’ve Learned About Sex in the Last 10 Years

This is a big year for me. I’m turning 50.  My oldest kid is heading off to college. And I’ve now been married to my second husband longer than I was married to my first one. And I’m happy about it. Adding to my marital happiness is the fact that I still want to have…

Erotic Lit To Take On Your Summer Vacation

Here’s something else to put on your must-pack list when you’re getting ready to go on your summer vacation: erotica. And I’m not referring to the 50 Shades of Grey Trilogy. I do think E.L. James is owed a whole debt of gratitude for opening up millions of women’s eyes (and perhaps their legs) to…

Female Viagra Nears Approval: What It Means for Your Libido

The big news last week in sexual health was a Federal Drug Administration committee vote to approve the launch of Flibanserin, a drug that may boost a woman’s interest in having sex. The effort to get to this point for the drug – the recommendation of an advisory committee tends to translate to formal FDA…