Saying “I Love You”

How often do you say, “I love you” to your partner? Once a day? Maybe twice a day? Or every time you speak on the phone? I fall in to the every time you speak on the phone category. That verbal expression of love is important to me. It’s right up there with other acts…

Empty Nest Practice

I always thought that I would be okay with having an empty nest. I focused on the positives: less laundry, fewer mouths to feed and the absence of my son’s sneaker collection. These past few weeks have been an empty nest trial run for me and my husband. One kid has already started college, going…

10 Reasons Why Second Marriages Work

My husband and I had been together for almost three years before we decided to get married. The year was 2006. We had both been married before, had been divorced for a while when we started dating and had young children. Our kids, three of them between the two of us, were seven, nine and…

A Sexual Dry Spell

Sometimes, my husband and I hit a sexual dry spell. Meaning that days, and occasionally, weeks go by without us having sex. It doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with our relationship. It usually just means that he’s been working late or that the kids have been around a lot or that I’m caught up…

Couch Potato Sex

Two good friends recently confided that their men love to fool around while they are watching TV. In one case, the preferred activity is a hand job. In the other, a blowjob is the desired action. For both men, the thrill seems to reference their teenage days, when they were just discovering sex. Back then,…

Celebrating Father’s Day (The MiddleSexy Way)

This Father’s Day, in addition to the barbecues, brunches and bundles of ties, socks, golf balls, sweaters and bathrobes you have planned, may we suggest another kind of gift for the man you are celebrating: a really good role in the hay. It can be low-key and spontaneous, say Sunday after lunch when the guests…

Crazy Is As Crazy Does

Nothing makes my husband crazier than cleaning out closets, and nothing makes me crazier than dealing with my husband when he is cleaning out closets. The event usually goes something like this: Him (from deep within a closet in an annoyed tone of voice): WHY do we have ALL of these ratty towels (or old…

Divorce Is Final But Kids Tie You Together Forever

So here’s the thing about divorce, if you have children together: Your marriage may be over but your interactions will never end. There will be birthday parties and graduations. Weddings and grandchildren. As parents, you are bonded together. Forever and ever. So you better do your damnedest to behave like civilized people over the years…

Taking One For the Team

Do you sometimes take one for the team? You know, those times when you have sex with your partner when you don’t really want to? You’re tired or you just did your hair or you ate too much for dinner and feel like you’re going to burst. I do it. Because in my marriage, our…