Taking One For the Team

Do you sometimes take one for the team? You know, those times when you have sex with your partner when you don’t really want to? You’re tired or you just did your hair or you ate too much for dinner and feel like you’re going to burst. I do it. Because in my marriage, our…

Worrying About Sex (In Your 40’s)

Sometimes, I worry about sex. Yes, me. I know, it’s odd. Right? I mean, I’ve written about sex a lot. I review sex toys. I try to be honest about my sexuality. But here are two of my worries. One, I worry that I don’t put out enough. Sure, hubs and I go through active…

When Your Teens Know You Use Vibrators

The other day, my teen daughter and I were sitting in the den watching yet another episode of Friends on Netflix when my almost 18 year-old son came through the front door with a FedEx package in his hand. He had been waiting for the return of his headphones that out of town friends had…

Helping Your Partner Become A Better Lover

We’ve all been there. Sex with a mate that is boring, or even worse, plain bad. Perfunctory foreplay, a hand or tongue that never seems to find the right place or the right rhythm, the thrust that starts too soon or is over too fast. But we also know that sex can be tricky to…

Diversity is Key to Explosive Sex

Have you and your partner ever fallen in to a sexual rut? You know, where you’re doing the same thing over and over again? Kind of makes it hard to get excited about being intimate, doesn’t it. If you’ve been together 5 years or 25 years, the best way to ensure that your next intimate…

The Importance of Kissing

How often do you kiss your partner? And I don’t mean just a peck on the cheek or a brief meeting of the lips in passing. I mean a moment in time when your lips meet and for a few seconds, that’s all that you’re focused on. Taking in the closeness of your bodies. Getting…

10 Ways To Flirt With Your Significant Other

Remember how exciting your relationship was when it was new? The flirting and the butterflies in your stomach. Recapture those thrills by updating all your old tricks, and adding a few new ones. Sext him. Tell him what a great body he has or what you want him to do to you when he gets…

A Sexual Dry Spell

Sometimes, my husband and I hit a sexual dry spell. Meaning that days, and occasionally, weeks go by without us having sex. It doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with our relationship. It usually just means that he’s been working late or that the kids have been around a lot or that I’m caught up…

10 Most Common Excuses Used to Avoid Sex

It’s a problem as old as the oldest civilization. We’re not in the mood to have sex but our partners are. And sure, every once in a while, we’ll buck up and take one for the team. But when we really, really don’t want to be intimate, here are the some of the excuses we’ve…