Chill Out: 5 Easy Ways to Deal with Hot Flashes

You know when you’ve got one. There’s a feeling of intense heat that builds slow and steady or suddenly jumps you like a lion on an unsuspecting gazelle. It’s a hot flash, and symptoms often include tingling in your fingers, a prickling feeling along the hairline, fast heartbeat, hot or red skin, and those damn,…

Sex In the Shower

Several of our closest friends have houses on a barrier island off the shore of Long Island, New York, where cars are banned and people walk or ride bicycles everywhere. The homes, situated close together on a narrow strip of land between the bay and the beach, rarely are locked and for our extended group…

Beauty Quickie: The Ice Facial

Woke up a little drawn or puffy? Actor Paul Newman used to swear by this trick and so should you: Fill your bathroom sink with cold water and add a couple of ice cubes. Then dunk your face, holding still for up to 10 seconds. Repeat a few times to tighten the skin and reduce…

Show Off Your Arms like Anna Wintour

Feeling self-conscious about sagging skin on your arms? Take a page from Vogue magazine editor Anna Wintour and let it all hang out. As I write this, the 65-year-old style-setter is sitting in Serena Williams’ players box at Wimbledon, wearing a sleeveless dress that shows off the folds on her otherwise toned upper arms. Exercise…

Summer Is the Friskiest Time of the Year

“Summer lovin’ had me a blast. Summer lovin’ happened so fast.” As John Travolta and Olivia Newton John sang to us in Grease, summer is the time for getting it on. Now scientists are backing up what every teenager seems to get by osmosis: there is a seasonality to sex, with summer the hottest time…

Cocktail Quickie: The Mojito

Come dusk on summer Saturday nights, I know I will find my friend Michael at his dining room table lining up a bag of sugar, a bottle of rum, some mint leaves and a perfect pyramid of limes. Whoever stops by first will be recruited as assistant, tasked with cutting and juicing the limes. Michael…

Couch Potato Sex

Two good friends recently confided that their men love to fool around while they are watching TV. In one case, the preferred activity is a hand job. In the other, a blowjob is the desired action. For both men, the thrill seems to reference their teenage days, when they were just discovering sex. Back then,…

How to Beat Vaginal Dryness

One of my good friends talks about the symptoms of aging as if they were climate change. “Up here,” she says, pointing to her face, “it now rains all the time.”  “But down there,” she says, pointing to her vagina, “it is as dry as the desert.” Our vaginas, like the rest of our bodies,…

How To Get In The Mood

Your partner is feeling frisky but you aren’t. Or you really want to do it but you’re too tired or too stressed or too something else. Turn that downtown frown around with any of these MiddleSexy recommendations for getting yourself in the mood. 1)      Read or watch something sexy. Your favorite sex scene in print…

Cool Looks for Hot Weather

One summer when our children were small, we rented a beach house with another couple. My friend Gwen was between jobs that July and offered to stay with her kids and ours during the week while the other adults headed back to our desks in the city. We spent a great first weekend together, then…