How To Give A Great Hand Job: Part 1

The best hand jobs have one thing in common: They are all different. In other words, they are tailor made for the guy on the receiving end. Some like a slow, gentle build while others prefer a rough tug. There are men who want to be fully engaged from top to bottom, and men who…

How To Get In The Mood

Your partner is feeling frisky but you aren’t. Or you really want to do it but you’re too tired or too stressed or too something else. Turn that downtown frown around with any of these MiddleSexy recommendations for getting yourself in the mood. 1)      Read or watch something sexy. Your favorite sex scene in print…

Sex In the Shower

Several of our closest friends have houses on a barrier island off the shore of Long Island, New York, where cars are banned and people walk or ride bicycles everywhere. The homes, situated close together on a narrow strip of land between the bay and the beach, rarely are locked and for our extended group…

Carnal Knowledge: Pegging

I was researching sex toys when I came across the term, “Pegging.” Intrigued, I sought out the, ahem, base of this word. What it means: Pegging is a neologism, or a word coined to describe something that previously lacked a name. In pegging, a woman inserts a dildo into a man’s anus, usually while wearing…

Helping Your Partner Become A Better Lover

We’ve all been there. Sex with a mate that is boring, or even worse, plain bad. Perfunctory foreplay, a hand or tongue that never seems to find the right place or the right rhythm, the thrust that starts too soon or is over too fast. But we also know that sex can be tricky to…

Seven Simple Ways To Be a Better Lover

Wondering what you can do to kick things up a notch in the sack? Here are MiddleSexy’s top tricks for playing the female Casanova. 1) Start with the pounce. Remember the episode in Sex and The City when Carrie laments that there was “no throwdown?” Instead of a small sign that you are in the…

The Porno Projector In My Head

In one of my favorite Judith Krantz novels (raise your hand if you learned about sex from reading Judith Krantz), the heroine’s sexual awakening is so intense that she needs to steal away from her office job to masturbate in the bathroom. I know this urge. I once made a long, boring train ride fly…

10 Ways To Flirt With Your Significant Other

Remember how exciting your relationship was when it was new? The flirting and the butterflies in your stomach. Recapture those thrills by updating all your old tricks, and adding a few new ones. Sext him. Tell him what a great body he has or what you want him to do to you when he gets…

Carnal Knowledge: Ballcuzi

It took me a couple of seconds to figure out the origination of the term, Ballcuzi. See if you get it when I describe how it’s done: A man places his balls into a mug or bowl of a warm liquid, say milk or water. His partner puts a straw into the liquid and starts…