Product Review: Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa Balls are not an easy sell. Their name sounds a little dirty and in order to use them, you have to insert the balls in to your vagina with your fingers. And not everybody is comfortable with that. But they should be. Because the outcome of wearing them is toned vaginal muscles and…

Saying “I Love You”

How often do you say, “I love you” to your partner? Once a day? Maybe twice a day? Or every time you speak on the phone? I fall in to the every time you speak on the phone category. That verbal expression of love is important to me. It’s right up there with other acts…

Empty Nest Practice

I always thought that I would be okay with having an empty nest. I focused on the positives: less laundry, fewer mouths to feed and the absence of my son’s sneaker collection. These past few weeks have been an empty nest trial run for me and my husband. One kid has already started college, going…

10 Reasons Why Second Marriages Work

My husband and I had been together for almost three years before we decided to get married. The year was 2006. We had both been married before, had been divorced for a while when we started dating and had young children. Our kids, three of them between the two of us, were seven, nine and…

A Sexual Dry Spell

Sometimes, my husband and I hit a sexual dry spell. Meaning that days, and occasionally, weeks go by without us having sex. It doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with our relationship. It usually just means that he’s been working late or that the kids have been around a lot or that I’m caught up…

Sleeping Naked

My husband sleeps naked every night. I do not. I wear a t-shirt and a pair of non-descript bikini underwear. This is what I have always done. At least it was until I went on my last trip to Las Vegas. I decided to experiment with sleeping naked. And I found that I liked it.…

Diet Quickie: Nuts

When I travel these days, I make sure to pack a nut sack. (And yes, I giggle every time I say that.) I don’t want to be stuck on a plane or in an airport without something to snack on. And a bag of nuts is the perfect travel companion. Nuts are portable, they don’t…

Shaving Face: How Women Do It

As I get closer to menopause, one of the physical changes I notice is that I’m getting hair in new places. The backs of my upper legs, a little outside the armpit area, and on my face. The first two have been easy to take care of. A quick swipe of my razor and they’re…

5 Things I’ve Learned About Sex in the Last 10 Years

This is a big year for me. I’m turning 50.  My oldest kid is heading off to college. And I’ve now been married to my second husband longer than I was married to my first one. And I’m happy about it. Adding to my marital happiness is the fact that I still want to have…