Product Review: We-Vibe 4 Plus

There’s a little sibling rivalry going on in my sex toy box these days because one of my favorite toys, the We-Vibe 3, has some friendly family competition. I’d like for you to meet the We-Vibe 4 Plus. The changes that have been made to the We-Vibe are, for lack of a better word, orgasmic.…

Product Review: We-Vibe III

Whenever I’m asked to recommend a sex toy, my go-to for all levels of experience is the We-Vibe III. The design of this toy is so well thought out and it can be used both alone and with a partner. The unique u-shape of the We-Vibe allows for half of it to sit inside your…

Seven Simple Ways To Be a Better Lover

Wondering what you can do to kick things up a notch in the sack? Here are MiddleSexy’s top tricks for playing the female Casanova. 1) Start with the pounce. Remember the episode in Sex and The City when Carrie laments that there was “no throwdown?” Instead of a small sign that you are in the…

My First Vibrator

After I got divorced, a close friend gave me a vibrator and told me to go home and use it. I was almost 40 years old. And I had never seen one up close before. It was one of those lipstick vibes. Small but powerful. It felt odd to use it that first time. I…

Worrying About Sex (In Your 40’s)

Sometimes, I worry about sex. Yes, me. I know, it’s odd. Right? I mean, I’ve written about sex a lot. I review sex toys. I try to be honest about my sexuality. But here are two of my worries. One, I worry that I don’t put out enough. Sure, hubs and I go through active…

When Your Teens Know You Use Vibrators

The other day, my teen daughter and I were sitting in the den watching yet another episode of Friends on Netflix when my almost 18 year-old son came through the front door with a FedEx package in his hand. He had been waiting for the return of his headphones that out of town friends had…

How To Get In The Mood

Your partner is feeling frisky but you aren’t. Or you really want to do it but you’re too tired or too stressed or too something else. Turn that downtown frown around with any of these MiddleSexy recommendations for getting yourself in the mood. 1)      Read or watch something sexy. Your favorite sex scene in print…