Product Review: We-Vibe 4 Plus

There’s a little sibling rivalry going on in my sex toy box these days because one of my favorite toys, the We-Vibe 3, has some friendly family competition. I’d like for you to meet the We-Vibe 4 Plus. The changes that have been made to the We-Vibe are, for lack of a better word, orgasmic.…

Taking One For the Team

Do you sometimes take one for the team? You know, those times when you have sex with your partner when you don’t really want to? You’re tired or you just did your hair or you ate too much for dinner and feel like you’re going to burst. I do it. Because in my marriage, our…

My First Vibrator

After I got divorced, a close friend gave me a vibrator and told me to go home and use it. I was almost 40 years old. And I had never seen one up close before. It was one of those lipstick vibes. Small but powerful. It felt odd to use it that first time. I…

How To Give A Great Hand Job: Part 2

In Part 1 of MiddleSexy’s primer on How To Give a Great Hand Job, we explored technique for bringing your partner to that blissful period just before orgasm. Once you have him there, your next step will determine whether he goes off quickly, like a bottle rocket, or takes a longer ride, sending off sequential…

How To Give A Great Hand Job: Part 1

The best hand jobs have one thing in common: They are all different. In other words, they are tailor made for the guy on the receiving end. Some like a slow, gentle build while others prefer a rough tug. There are men who want to be fully engaged from top to bottom, and men who…

Chin Hairs and Other Facts About My Perimenopause

I am in smack dab in the middle of perimenopause, the transition of a woman’s body in to menopause. Once I don’t get my period for 12 months, I’ll officially be in menopause. But at the age of 49, I’m still getting mine every 28 days. Every woman’s journey to the land of no menses…

Worrying About Sex (In Your 40’s)

Sometimes, I worry about sex. Yes, me. I know, it’s odd. Right? I mean, I’ve written about sex a lot. I review sex toys. I try to be honest about my sexuality. But here are two of my worries. One, I worry that I don’t put out enough. Sure, hubs and I go through active…

Sex Quickie: Why You Should Masturbate

In the last few years, the world has finally acknowledged that, yes, women do masturbate. (Loud cheering.) And we should. Often. There are many reasons why masturbation is beneficial to us. Here are some of my favorites: Masturbation feels good. Falls in to the use it or lose it campaign of anti-aging. Keep those vaginal…