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Show Off Your Arms like Anna Wintour

Feeling self-conscious about sagging skin on your arms? Take a page from Vogue magazine editor Anna Wintour and let it all hang out. As I write this, the 65-year-old style-setter is sitting in Serena Williams’ players box at Wimbledon, wearing a sleeveless dress that shows off the folds on her otherwise toned upper arms. Exercise…

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Empty Nest Practice

I always thought that I would be okay with having an empty nest. I focused on the positives: less laundry, fewer mouths to feed and the absence of my son’s sneaker collection. These past few weeks have been an empty nest trial run for me and my husband. One kid has already started college, going…

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Summer Is the Friskiest Time of the Year

“Summer lovin’ had me a blast. Summer lovin’ happened so fast.” As John Travolta and Olivia Newton John sang to us in Grease, summer is the time for getting it on. Now scientists are backing up what every teenager seems to get by osmosis: there is a seasonality to sex, with summer the hottest time…

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Cocktail Quickie: The Mojito

Come dusk on summer Saturday nights, I know I will find my friend Michael at his dining room table lining up a bag of sugar, a bottle of rum, some mint leaves and a perfect pyramid of limes. Whoever stops by first will be recruited as assistant, tasked with cutting and juicing the limes. Michael…

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10 Reasons Why Second Marriages Work

My husband and I had been together for almost three years before we decided to get married. The year was 2006. We had both been married before, had been divorced for a while when we started dating and had young children. Our kids, three of them between the two of us, were seven, nine and…

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A Sexual Dry Spell

Sometimes, my husband and I hit a sexual dry spell. Meaning that days, and occasionally, weeks go by without us having sex. It doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with our relationship. It usually just means that he’s been working late or that the kids have been around a lot or that I’m caught up…

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Couch Potato Sex

Two good friends recently confided that their men love to fool around while they are watching TV. In one case, the preferred activity is a hand job. In the other, a blowjob is the desired action. For both men, the thrill seems to reference their teenage days, when they were just discovering sex. Back then,…

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How to Beat Vaginal Dryness

One of my good friends talks about the symptoms of aging as if they were climate change. “Up here,” she says, pointing to her face, “it now rains all the time.”  “But down there,” she says, pointing to her vagina, “it is as dry as the desert.” Our vaginas, like the rest of our bodies,…

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How To Get In The Mood

Your partner is feeling frisky but you aren’t. Or you really want to do it but you’re too tired or too stressed or too something else. Turn that downtown frown around with any of these MiddleSexy recommendations for getting yourself in the mood. 1)      Read or watch something sexy. Your favorite sex scene in print…